The four stages of forgiveness
The first step is for you to become truly willing to forgive this individual and unconditionally release and let go of all of the negativity that you may harbor toward this individual.
Turn within and become aware of any negativity toward another within your heart and soul.
As you become aware of it; gently and lovingly remind yourself that:
1) Everybody is doing their very best at all times.
Whatever they did or did not do, in that moment that was the best they could do.
A great practice here, is to seek to see and understand where they are coming from, to see life from their perspective.
This, simple exercise, is powerful when it comes to giving birth to compassion (which is the understanding of the lack of understanding in another).
Where there is compassion, negativity dissolves.
2) No one has the power to make you think or feel anything unless you give them that power.
Please remember that it is not what the other did or did not do that is the cause of your negativity – it is your perceptions and opinions of what they did or did not do that give rise to your emotional pain and suffering.
As you realize this, you begin to be able to release and let go of the negativity you have been holding on to.
3) There is only One. That other individual is only a dimension of that One, just as you are a dimension of that One. Ultimately there is only One, no separation.
In other words, that other individual is a dimension of you, just as you are a dimension of that other individual.
The fourth step of the forgiveness process is to pray for the other individual.
Simply wish them well.
The last step in the forgiveness process is lovingly doing something good and kind for the other individual.
If possible, do it anonymously, so that your ego can’t creep in and take credit for it.